A powerful lesson.

A few years back, I participated in a small group discussion with a diverse group of strangers. At one point, I made a remark about overcoming the brutality of polarizing politics and leading from where we stood. Within seconds, I felt the petite black woman next to me bristle. “Easy for you to say. You know nothing about structural racism.” She turned away from me.

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Sara Flitner
To our graduates.

This week, we deviate from routine for a message to our community’s graduates. And please join us for this week’s guided practice, courtesy of beloved fourth-grade teacher Libby Crews Wood. It’s particularly well suited to graduation week.

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Sara Flitner
The danger of beauty. The beauty of danger.

Like many of you, we paid respect to a few rays of sunshine over the weekend, hoping for a glimpse of the finest beauty in the county -- grizzly “399” and her four cubs. My first thought was solidarity with the 23 year-old mama….How long is a bear year? More than a dog year? Reminds me of the tabloid story about the sixty-something year old woman who gave birth to twins. Fortunately or unfortunately, she was hard of hearing by then…

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Sara Flitner
Just like me.

Small towns keep you honest. There’s little anonymity to soften the hard edges of character flaws. I was reminded of this one hurried morning recently when I needed to grab the mail on my way to work. Of course I got stopped at a light, and when it turned green, the annoying texter in front of me failed to go. I tapped the horn, a split second longer than really necessary, changed lanes, and bustled through the intersection. As I scuttled by the blue Toyota, my look of annoyance barely muted, I recognized the nicest person in town, my pediatrician’s nurse.

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Sara Flitner
Herd immunity or herd mentality?

I learned about “herd mentality” growing up in Wyoming, and the memory still stings some 40 years later. I was eavesdropping on a report from the game warden as he recounted how hundreds and hundreds of sheep, scared witless by a bear, followed each other over a steep ravine, spilling like a colossal bucket of milk into the hungry jaws of the canyon. I listened, sick with the news that our beloved herd was nearly all gone. Among the lost was our pet ewe, raised as a bum lamb by my brothers and sister and me.

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Don't just do something. Stand there.

We’re conditioned to act, to do something. As we limp toward soft reopenings, we want to fortify ourselves, our families, our organizations with something mimicking the life we lived months ago. We want to regain footing amidst the uncertainty that pervades. While some of the restrictions have been lifted, and the sun shines like a super power, it is hard to shake the fear. Doubt contaminates our confidence, our open heartedness.

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Sara Flitner
The nature of things.

This, too, shall pass. Jackson’s predictably unpredictable weather has our moods rising and falling in synchrony with the barometer. Slips of brilliant, clear sky and simple sunlight play with our emotions, throwing bread crumbs of hopefulness. Each day brings its own creative forces to the sky’s slate, sometimes changing color from light to dark, dark to light, in a matter of hours. Sun and fresh air make normalcy and steadiness seem within reach.

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Sara Flitner
Do less. Be more.

Every day, I get at least three emails with suggestions on how to thrive in the time of social distancing and stay-at-home orders. Get creative. Learn how to run your business online, while getting into “beach body” condition. Read War and Peace. Start a new hobby. Clean out closets. Bond with your family over puzzles, cooking together, board games, crafts…

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Notice what you notice.

When I stepped into the grocery store on Saturday, alarm bells went off in my head. I was practically sprinting down the aisles, mindlessly grabbing things that weren’t even on my list before I caught myself and paused. “What is happening here?” I thought, aware of feeling tense everywhere. Then, it hit me.

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Feeling it? We are, too.

There is no benefit to whitewashing emotions. While we talk a lot about compassion and gratitude (both are very good), it is also important to be able to skillfully “feel what you feel.” Much of our stress and suffering comes from trying to outrun our emotions. This just adds layers of . . . well . . . stress and suffering.

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Sara Flitner
Don’t face your fear.

Uncertainty haunts us in this moment, and it’s exhausting for the brain’s processing systems. “How long can I manage working and homeschooling?” “Can my business recover from this?” “What if my parents get sick?” “What if I can’t pay my rent?” What if? . . .

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The Stop Sign Practice

This practice is inspired by Isaac Kinney’s “Friendly Wishes” practice. And scientists agree that it strengthens connections to the compassion and resilience centers in our brains.

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Clarity is all around us.

Each day brings a new set of challenges, obstacles, and questions. Scary numbers double overnight. But so do acts of kindness, generosity, courage, and care -- from our healthcare workers, from our business and nonprofit communities, and from our neighbors.

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When "someday" arrives . . .

For years, we have pondered the day when something big would turn the world on its head. Whether it would be a conflict, a natural disaster, or a pandemic, we knew “something” would happen . . . someday.

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Stay present, be kind, and act.

Our mission at Becoming Jackson Whole is to provide mindfulness and social wellness tools to our community at scale. Less stress. More resilience. Better outcomes. More connection. Important in all times, but critically so in the face of the current global environment.

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Sara Flitner